The Best Horsemen Never Stop Learning
As a coach, I stopped trying to tell people what to think. Instead, I started asking questions that helped them find the answer themselves.
Over the past few weeks, I've found myself thinking not only about horses, but about horse people.
I remember, as a child in Ireland, a very different atmosphere around the showgrounds. The top riders always seemed to have time for the younger generation. A smile. An autograph. Five minutes to answer what probably felt like a silly question.
To us, those few minutes meant everything.
As my own career developed, I was fortunate enough to learn from some incredible horsemen and women. Looking back, I realized something important.
I learned just as much from the coaches I promised myself I would never become as I did from the ones I admired.
Some believed that shouting, criticism, fear or embarrassment made students stronger.
I discovered the opposite.
Confidence creates better horsemen.
As a coach, I stopped trying to tell people what to think. Instead, I started asking questions that helped them find the answer themselves. When someone works something out on their own, they don't just remember it—they believe in it.
That's where real confidence begins.
Today, I worry we've lost a little of that in our industry.
Social media has connected us all, but somewhere along the way it has also made many people afraid to ask questions. Too many riders worry they'll be judged, criticized or ridiculed for simply wanting to learn.
The saddest part?
The horses—and ultimately our entire industry—are the ones that pay the price.
Every experienced horseman was once a beginner.
Every champion has made mistakes.
Every great coach is still learning.
Imagine how much stronger our industry could become if we encouraged curiosity instead of criticism. If we answered questions with kindness instead of sarcasm. If we remembered that every confident rider was once the nervous kid standing at the rail hoping someone would take five minutes to help.
That's the kind of horse community I'd like to be part of.
And it's the kind of community I hope Parkmore can help build.
Before you go, I'd like to ask you a favour.
Think back to the person who helped you believe in yourself.
Maybe it was a coach who saw something in you before you did.
Maybe it was another competitor who offered a kind word.
Maybe it was a parent, a friend, or simply another horse person who took the time to answer a question... or simply give you a much-needed hug.
Who was that person?
Tell us their story in the comments.
If they're on Facebook, tag them too.
I think they'd smile knowing they made a difference in someone's life.
Let's fill this page with the people who made us better horsemen, because kindness, encouragement and a willingness to share knowledge are traditions worth protecting.
The best horsemen aren't the ones who know everything.
They're the ones who never stop learning...
...and who make sure others feel safe enough to do the same.
Until next time...
Be kind. Be the person you needed when you were starting out.
🍀 Fleur